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Tuesday, February 18, 2014

The Women's Union becomes the Sisterhood

The Women’s Union is that aspect of women’s psyche during Patriarchy that subconsciously subscribes to the basic tenant of the system: The belief that men—and the outdated model of the masculine that we held in Patriarchy—has all the power. This model includes beliefs such as that only the top dog survives, and that life is all about competition.

The Women’s Union in us makes us super critical of each other—and of ourselves—as women. It is a collective archetype, and so it tends to run through us as a force of judging women. We judge each other for being too sexual, not sexual enough, too fat, too slim, too visible, having bad dress sense, making bad choices in relationship, and on and on.

I encourage you to take some time to reflect on how the Women’s Union lives in you. I have found that even women who regard themselves as very sexual and not mainstream have the Women’s Union subtly, or not so subtly, influencing their lives.

The good news is that this archetype can be transformed in us. Transformed, the Women’s Union becomes the quality of Sisterhood.

Sisterhood is a phenomenon where women start to apply our capacity to love in supporting each other, to see each other’s beauty, and to let each other blossom and radiate in the world. The quality of Sisterhood also draws us together as a collective of women, to get clear on our deepest values and highest knowing of what kind of world we want to create. The feminine principle is, after all, the principle of creation. We create the world we live in!

To activate Sisterhood in you, I suggest the following:

  • Come together with a group of women, and spend some time reflecting to each other the unique gifts and beauty you see in each other. Consider doing a sensual exercise together, like massaging each other’s hands or brushing each other’s hair. Feel into the softness and spaciousness that opens.
  • Reflect with the group, or on your own in writing, on the following questions:
    • What are the values that most inspire you?
    • What kind of world do you really want to create?
  • Start to bring your higher visions into manifestation by dancing or painting them, or writing a poem, or a story about them. Share them with others. Give them energy and support.
Being in Sisterhood opens a new door to our own healing and to deeper connections with other women and men in our lives. I encourage you to help make this shift in our culture.


A couple of weeks back, I had a beautiful Q&A Call focused on questions around my upcoming trainings — Sexual Awakening for Women 9-Month Personal Intensive and 12-Month Facilitator's Training. I shared a lot of information about these two programs on the call, particularly the teachings and the learning outcomes; and I answered some great questions from women about the programs. A number of women said that it helped clarify the program structure and the level of interaction during the course.

 To download or stream a recording of this call please click here.

The Sexual Awakening for Women programs start February 19th, so if you're interested please go to the course information page to learn more and register HERE.

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Celebrate the Sacred Sexual Woman

In my previous post, I introduced you to the first of three feminine sexual archetypes that need transforming in our time. The first one was the Virgin, and the next archetype is the Whore.The Whore is society's scapegoat — she is judged by everyone from celibate priests to AIDS-preaching pharmaceutical companies. She is also celebrated, as by the rock star Madonna.

If we travel through the shadow land of the Whore archetype, we will find that at its core, this archetype has a message that our society desperately needs to hear. It is this:

Celebrate your sexuality! It is powerful... and it is divine! 

There is a power and liberation in exploring the range of your sexuality between these two polarities:

1. Go Wild

We human beings have become too tamed. It's time to find again...

...your slithering snake belly that feels her delight
your tiger claws that cut through niceties and protects love
your lioness roar that says what she wants, loudly and clearly.

Bring your animal self into your life. Bring her into your bedroom. Find your own authentic way. Stop holding back energy. Give yourself fully to life. You'd be surprised how your partner will delight in this wild creature coming out of you.

Whenever I let my authentic life force move through my body, without censoring or manipulating it, the man in my life responds with delicious aliveness in his body and his eyes - and he is magnetized to me. Sometimes that wildness comes out  in me with claws - and sometimes it comes out with a ferocious embrace and a passionate declaration: I LOVE YOU!!!

2. Go Subtle

To really celebrate our sexuality, we need also to honor the profound subtlety that is at the heart of sex. Discover that subtlety by going inside. Close your eyes, and journey with your breath all the way down your body, into your pelvic bowl. Drop into the swirling molten honey of your internal desire body. Feel the subtle undulations and ripples that come from that pelvic bowl.

Now connect with your genitals and feel the fine currents of energy that start to run through them as you bring your breath and your attention to them. Really enjoy this feeling — soak it in.

In my upcoming 9-month Sexual Awakening for Women Personal Intensive, I'll be guiding women into a deeper understanding of the Virgin and Whore archetypes in their own lives. And if you choose to step onto this journey, I'll be taking you through subtle energetic, creative and psychological processes to clear the obstacles that are in the way of you fully living your creative, sexual genius as an embodiment of the Feminine.